Finding Your Motivation: A Gentle Approach to Change
This article was written by Hully M. Hoover, M.Ed., LAPC (she/her), an MFC licensed therapist with more than 33 years of dedicated service in public education, trained and experienced in Motivational Interviewing to help individuals overcome the roadblocks to change.
What Is Motivational Interviewing?
Motivational Interviewing (often called MI) is a therapeutic approach designed to help people who feel stuck or unsure about making a change. If you’ve ever thought, “I know something needs to be different, but I don’t know how to start,” MI might be a good fit for you.
MI is all about collaboration. Instead of a therapist telling you what to do, you and your therapist work together to explore what’s going on in your life. This includes looking at both sides of change—what makes you want things to be different and what makes change feel hard or intimidating. There’s no pressure to decide anything right away. The goal is simply to understand yourself better.
A big part of Motivational Interviewing is noticing the space between where you are now and where you want to be. Your therapist helps you gently explore how your current habits, thoughts, or behaviors may be affecting your well-being or relationships, while also imagining what life could look like if things shifted in a healthier direction.
MI is built on the idea that you are the expert in your own life. Your therapist isn’t there to push or judge you, but to guide and support you. Along the way, you’ll identify what matters most to you, recognize your strengths, and build confidence in your ability to make changes that feel right for you.
Who Is Motivational Interviewing For?
Motivational Interviewing can be especially helpful if you feel torn—part of you wants to change, while another part feels hesitant, overwhelmed, or unsure. This kind of mixed feeling is completely normal, and MI is designed to meet you exactly where you are.
MI is often used to support people dealing with things like:
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Substance use or habit changes
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Big life transitions or lifestyle shifts
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Career stress or burnout
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Relationship concerns
It’s also a great approach for teens and young adults. Because MI respects independence and choice, it helps teens explore their own values and motivations rather than making them feel like they’re being told what to do.
Why Do Therapists Use Motivational Interviewing?
Therapists often use Motivational Interviewing when someone feels stuck or conflicted about change. If you’ve ever felt unsure, resistant, or hesitant in therapy, MI offers a gentler, more supportive way to explore what’s going on.
Instead of focusing on “fixing” the problem, MI helps you slow down and get curious about what matters most to you. Your therapist may help you explore questions like:
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What do I want my life to look like?
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What’s holding me back right now?
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What feels scary or uncertain about change?
Through open conversation, MI helps you look at how your current choices affect your well-being and relationships, while also highlighting your strengths and past successes. The focus is always on empowering you—not pushing you—so change feels possible and manageable.
What Challenges Can Motivational Interviewing Help With?
Change often brings up fear, self-doubt, and uncertainty. Many people know what they should do, but struggle with actually doing it. Motivational Interviewing helps address the internal roadblocks that can make change feel overwhelming.
MI can help with challenges such as:
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Feeling overwhelmed by the idea of change
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Fear of failure or making the wrong choice
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Low confidence due to past experiences
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Feeling pressured by others to change
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Feeling disconnected from your values or goals
By creating a safe space to talk things through, MI helps you reconnect with your own motivation instead of relying on outside pressure or expectations.
What Are the Benefits of Motivational Interviewing?
One of the biggest benefits of Motivational Interviewing is that motivation comes from you. When you discover your own reasons for change, you’re more likely to stay committed and follow through.
People who work with MI often experience:
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Greater clarity about what they want
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Increased confidence and self-trust
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Less resistance and self-criticism
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More meaningful and lasting change
Motivational Interviewing helps you move forward in a way that feels authentic, empowering, and sustainable. Instead of being told what to do, you learn to trust yourself—and that can make all the difference.
How Therapy Works at Move Forward Counseling (Pennsylvania)
At Move Forward Counseling, licensed Pennsylvania therapists use Motivational Interviewing or blended approaches tailored to your needs, symptoms, and comfort.
What to Expect
- A warm, grounded first session
- Space to share your story at a comfortable pace
- Help identify the most supportive therapy fit
- Insurance-friendly options and online sessions across Pennsylvania
Mini-FAQs
Do you offer online therapy? Yes—online therapy is available statewide.
Can I request a certain therapy type? Yes—your therapist will help you explore what fits best.
How to Get Started
If you’re unsure where to begin, you’re welcome to reach out whenever you’re ready via our contact page. The first session is simply a chance to feel supported, talk through your needs, and explore what’s possible.
We’re here to help you take that next step at a pace that feels comfortable and reassuring.
Is the first session overwhelming? Most people find it grounding and calming.
Do you offer flexible scheduling options? Yes—availability varies by therapist.
About the Author
Hully is a therapist at Move Forward Counseling. Her journey began as a Social Studies teacher after earning a Bachelor’s degree in Education. She later returned to graduate school to complete a Master’s degree in Secondary School Counseling, which led to a fulfilling career as a School Counselor. She draws on her experience and training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Person-Centered Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Strength-Based techniques to tailor therapy and help you remove the roadblocks to internal change.
